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Stefanie von Fallois 00:00
This dolphin as this huge danger energy presents to me somehow feminine and masculine in joined together and you can be weak and you can be strong and you can you yourself can be anything with this dolphin and there is no judgment. There’s full acceptance
Achim Nowak 00:29
Hey, this is Achim Nowak, executive coach and host of the MY FOURTH ACT podcast. If life is a FIVE ACT play, how will you spend your FOURTH ACT? I have conversations with exceptional humans who have created bold and unexpected FOURTH ACTS, listen, and to be inspired. And please rate us and subscribe on whatever platform you are listening on. Let’s get started. I am so very happy to welcome Stephanie to the MY FOURTH ACT podcast. Stephanie is a German born life coach, psychologist and a former nurse who now resides in Miami, Florida. She was for many years they had therapist at Dolphin human therapy, a world renowned animal assisted therapy facility, Key Largo, Florida. Stephanie currently serves as a guest therapist at Curacao and dolphin therapy center in carousel where she coaches families and individuals facing unique difficulties in their lives. She has been recognized in European newspapers, television specials, and documentaries. And Stephanie also supports clients private practice in Miami. Welcome, Stephanie.
Stefanie von Fallois 01:54
Thank you for having me. I’m so happy.
Achim Nowak 01:57
Happy to be here to our listeners. I confess Stephanie is somebody who I know socially, she’s married to a wonderful man named Allen, who was one of the first people I met when I moved to Miami and he said, Oh, I have this wonderful German wife you should meet her and, and the rest is history. I wanted to speak with you for so many reasons. But one is that I mentioned in the introduction that you, you do some work with dolphins. It goes into in my mind, deep mystical healing. Things are difficult to maybe express and put into words, but that are things we all need individually and in the planet. So I wanted to speak with you. But before we go there, fellow German when you were a young girl or teenager growing up in Germany, and you know, a parents want to know what you want to do when you grow up. Like what? What were you thinking? Or what what would you say to mom and dad.
Stefanie von Fallois 03:00
I was very into little children and babies as I was a child myself was very interesting. I love babies. I love taking care of kids and I wanted to become a pediatric nurse. I wanted to be just around babies. It was very interesting. I think my dad was not so happy about that path. But that is what I wanted to become when I was very young. And I even work when I was 13 or 14, I worked in a hospital during my summer vacation. On a newborn ward. It was so emotional. It’s so touching. And I was when we knew the head nurse, and she let me do everything there was amazing. I was allowed to base newborn babies and, you know, dress them and just hug them and be with them. It was very, very intense experience at a very young age. I
Achim Nowak 03:57
could just imagine there’ll be very intense. And I just know that young born babies are so so small and to me the outside look fragile. So what was it like for you to like what did it invoke in you? When you were with us? Yeah.
Stefanie von Fallois 04:17
I think like if I look back, I always asked myself why was that? I think because I was put into boarding school at a very young age that I was 11 and I was the youngest sister of five brothers and my twin brother and I we were put into boarding school and I think this feeling of abandonment and of being all by myself and and feeling very much alone crying for many nights in my bed. Not being heard that I think was something where I I liked this caring I think there was something within me that I nurtured caring for these little kids and I just felt somehow that it healed a part of me, I think
Achim Nowak 05:09
you became a nurse for a while as an adult. Were you actually pediatric nurse?
Stefanie von Fallois 05:15
No, it’s interesting. I did not at the end, in the end become a pediatric nurse, I became a nurse for normal adults. And it was like somebody recommended to, to become a nurse, like a genuine loss. And because children would be part of it, and then I could still at some point, you know, specialize in children, but I became a full nurse for adults, for I would say, around seven years.
Achim Nowak 05:46
Because I just had a surgery where I was taking care of it, but lots of nurses. I have other nurse friends in my life, but being a patient, few things stand out. I was so appreciative of everything that nurses do. Yes. And I saw different nurses, there were different skill levels. And there was a different a different abilities of being a compassionate nurse that I experienced as a patient. So even though everybody had the same profession, there were significant differences of how we experienced it. But I want to ask you, as somebody who was a nurse, take care of lots of different people. And this, these are all very transient relationships. So you know, you’re not going to see them for a long time. What in your memory stands out for you as, Wow, this is something that was important for me about being
Stefanie von Fallois 06:50
think being very present to patients and patients needs in this moment, was something that followed me throughout my next career. But I think it started already in being in a more physical caring part, and of course, also emotional part. But I think that being a good listener being open, we’re really trying to emphasize, I mean, emphasize, to understand what is it that this patient this person needs at the moment, and that is something I really enjoyed, to care and to make them feel better, and to make them feel comfortable and to make them less fearful? And yes, that’s,
Achim Nowak 07:43
well, I can see how much of what you describe relates to the dolphin work you’ve been doing and how that is an almost an amplified playground for what you’re doing as a nurse. But before we go there, I lived in Berlin for a while I lived in Berlin before I came to the United States. You lived in Berlin before you became the United States and, and Berlin is too many people now this, this glamorous, sexy world city with a great history. So one Berliner asking another one, if you had to explain to somebody who doesn’t know Berlin, well, what are some things that you think are really cool and wonderful about Berlin, Berlin that you remember,
Stefanie von Fallois 08:25
in Berlin that I remember that was before the wall came down. So I moved there in 1988 89. So the wall came down in November of 89, as you remember, and so I moved there before before the wall came down, which was of course, never imagined at that time, hoped always, but not not really imaginable. And so, Berlin had this, like Island status, you know, people were always in my memory, always a little different. Who moved to Berlin wanted to be in Berlin, it was an island in the middle of East Germany. I mean, if you imagine I don’t even know any country where you would have anything like that. It was a divided city. And the city is located was located to is in the eastern part of a country we were not allowed to visit. I mean, imagine so all those people who moved to Berlin were looking for something unique and so when I moved there, I was drawn to that, you know, being a little bit different and being a little bit crazy, maybe and very curious. I came from a little village I grew up in the countryside. So Berlin, of course, was very different than anything I’d seen before.
Achim Nowak 09:49
I didn’t know we were going to talk about this but since you mentioned right before the wall I Like You I thought it was always talked about we’re going to be unified against on time and as a kid, you go, yeah, that’ll never happen. And I remember the day it happened, I was in the United States and the wall comes down. And from a place that I didn’t know was inside of me, I was just weeping and weeping and weeping. Yeah, it was so profound. Can you give us a glimpse for what it was like to us, somebody who was a Berliner, at that time encountering, we use the metaphor of divided country, the Wall coming down, it has so many layers of meaning.
Stefanie von Fallois 10:33
Yes. extremely emotional. I think, you know, what you describe, I was crying and I was disbelief. And I remember the first days when all these cars came over, and all these people and, you know, we welcomed everybody with open arms, and we were open to meet all these new people we had never, I at least had never seen and to hear their stories and help them move forward and was just so overwhelming. It was. It was like history, life history in the making. And I was just in the middle of everything, and very, very touching.
Achim Nowak 11:19
Since you and I met in Miami, your husband is American, I assume moving here had something to do with Alan and your husband? But would you just give us a glimpse like, how did it come about that you left Berlin? And I was worried. Were you excited to come to Miami? Did you have mixed feelings about coming here? What was that transition? Like?
Stefanie von Fallois 11:41
I have to go a little bit backwards because I knew a little bit of Miami Through my internship I did in 1997 in Miami at that time with dolphin assisted therapy, at that time was called dolphin human therapy with Dr. Nations and my boss. And, and it was, it was interesting, because it was at the end of my studies, and I was watching TV. It was a very gray November day, as you know how that is in Germany. And I was watching TV, and I saw a documentary about dolphin assisted therapy. And I was like, Oh my God, it was, you know, the sunshine, the palm trees, the dolphins, the whole environment was I was sitting there. And I’m like, really, that exists. You know, I had seen flipper as a kid. But it was like it. I couldn’t believe my eyes. And it was maybe I can remember when we 10 minutes and after 10 minutes was over. And it was 9096. So there was nothing I hadn’t no access to any information. I couldn’t just go into the internet and Google, you know, so I had to write to the TV channel that they would send me the information about, you know, this documentary, it was dolphin aid in Dusseldorf. So finally, after I think two months or something, I was in the middle of my exams, I got a letter from I got a letter from TV, and they sent me all the information and then I you know, the same way I’m telling you now, I wrote everything you know, and I said, I saw you that documentary. And if there’s ever any space for me there, if I can do anything, it doesn’t really matter. I just want to go there and I want to be part of this great therapy program. So I sent everything off and forgot about it and in I think April of 1997 Dolphin aid called me and asked me they asked me whether I would like to accompany the first six families attending therapy in Miami and be the doormat dementia and assistant and I was a little bit you know, I did everything. So that’s how I met Miami. So that’s how I got to know Miami. So then,
Achim Nowak 14:23
let’s talk about that first, because that’s, you know that cliche something as opposed to be something is meant to be the select one of those. It was meant to be stories, right?
Stefanie von Fallois 14:34
Yeah, absolutely. You can’t plan that. You can’t plan that.
Achim Nowak 14:39
But describe to us and was this central already in Key Largo? Because I visited you once in Key Largo. Is that where you went where the dolphins were?
Stefanie von Fallois 14:48
At that time? It was they had moved several times. They started in Key Largo. I think then they moved to Mexico the program and then when I went there it was in Miami at the Silk Road. Are you? I think in 2000, they moved back to Key Largo.
Achim Nowak 15:06
So in your first visit, you’re accompanying this six families and you remember things that stood out for you from that experience firsthand being with dolphins and I’m assuming people interacting with dolphins and what did you observe or what what stood out to you?
Stefanie von Fallois 15:26
Well, first of all, I met amazing families, they were very unique families, families with special needs children, anyway, very unique, I must say, Oh, I met so many hundreds of different families. And they have, you know, through their special needs child, they have become very special as a family. And so I met very unique families and having them enter this dolphin encounter for the first time I remember I was just in tears, and I was so touched and those gender giants and I wasn’t even allowed to touch any dolphin I wasn’t allowed to swim with them at all, during that time, was very strict, I was only the assistant for the families, I think on my last day, I was allowed to touch them once. And it was such a unique feeling. It was so smooth and soft. And but to see how these dolphins were interacting with the kids, it was was something I had never seen only, you know, in this documentary, but never before this genuineness and this tenderness and their sounds. And they always look at it, they smile and just bring so much joy to the observer. And I think everybody was just speechless, and very emotional.
Achim Nowak 16:51
What did the dolphin bring out and the children
Stefanie von Fallois 16:56
joy, joy, a lot of drivers pure joy. And, you know, they don’t probably, you know, as we tried to analyze everything, you know, why is it this way, in this way, whatever, I think there is more much more present there, just there. And you know how kids are, and they are just present to the moment and they interact with they play this listen to the sounds and I think it was always a big smile. And there were some children for example, who had cerebral palsy or spastic and their arms and or legs and legs. And they, you know, started to relax in the water. And they became, you know, some who were hyper became much calmer and some who were very calm and floppy. And because they had no body tone became like, changed into some with much more alertness it was in very amazing to see these changes within such a short period of time couldn’t really believe it. And it’s not really explained until today. I
Achim Nowak 18:07
I know that and I know you and I’ve talked about this, there’s there’s still a mystery to this encounter that can’t be fully explained. But no, you ask yourself those questions. So how, if you had to come up with a hypothesis, it doesn’t have to be scientific, but a hypothesis about what that exchange is between a dolphin and the human soul or human spirit.
Stefanie von Fallois 18:37
Different question one theory I have is that, you know, we as human beings, we are come for at least nine months from being in the water, I mean, this is very nature to us, being inside the womb, inside water all around us. So I think water in general, has something very unique, also familiar to us. And then this dolphin as this huge danger, enter energy presents to me somehow feminine and masculine in joined together and you can be weak and you can be strong and you can you yourself can be anything with this dwarf and there is no judgement. There’s full acceptance. They don’t check you out whether you you know, look this way or this way or nothing. They just accept everyone for whom they are and the way they present themselves in this moment. And I think this combination of being in water and exposed to this amazing animal which always has a smile on his face brings Add something very unique.
Achim Nowak 20:05
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Stefanie von Fallois 21:07
If I would have known what I would you know what came up and what I had to learn during all these years, you know, I would probably never have applied because it was such a huge learning curve. Because I was a psychologist. I mean, I had been a nurse, I’ve been a psychologist, I had done systemic family therapy in Berlin. And I had, of course, a background. But then I had to work with not only you know, I would say I had a little idea about autism, I will I had worked with autistic youth in Berlin, but had never ever worked with any child in a wheelchair. I had never worked with cerebral palsy. I’ve never worked with so many kids or adults with all these different disabilities. I was like, how am I ever going to, you know, accomplish that in the beginning, I was like, you know, there was so much to learn. Just imagine you yourself being in the water with the dolphin. I mean, I always wear a belt. But still, I mean, that is already one big experience how you position yourself and that you stay calm, because the moment you are not calm, forget it, the dolphin is just going to move away. And does not feel comfortable when you move, you know, with your arms and legs and whatever. And then you have a child that, especially in the beginning you haven’t even met except for maybe like half an hour. And then very often, I would say 80% of my initial years when I work with kids could hardly talk. They had many of those kids had no communication skills. And so they came they flew from most of the kids I worked with were from Europe, so the German speaking population. So because I’m German, and I speak the language, of course, I had all these German families. So they flew from the other side, you know, from Germany paid a lot of money. So they came with huge expectations. So then you can see is littered with this giant, huge expectations. And you had to make it somehow work. You had to go into the water, you’ve had to provide therapy because it is in the end it is conventional therapy in a very unconventional setting. It’s not what many people might say, who have never attended or watched it. It’s not that Oh, you just go and swim with the dolphin and then some healing takes place. No, no, no, no, that’s not what it is. It is you know, providing very conventional therapy was you know, we had speech therapists, occupational therapists, physical therapists, you so you have a swimming platform. And you do work on these skills, communication skills to help someone to produce sounds to communicate with sign language, all that was so much learning. And every day we had this great team who and everybody, you know, we we cross trained a lot. So when if I had a physical involved child, then I always had a physical therapist who I could ask for help and vice versa. We always help each other and everybody had to learn in different fields where they had no clue before it was
Achim Nowak 24:35
you just did such a wonderful job of describing to us your substantial background in Germany, and then how everything changed and became something different when you were here. So what I’m curious and this is really in the spirit of this podcast, my fourth ACC you being in Key Largo and I had the pleasure of visiting you there and watching or work with dolphins. So I have a very vivid memory memory of you and the water and the dolphins and the children and the families. That was a whole other act in your professional career. What did you definitely learn about yourself through this work with the children and the dolphins? How did that change you?
Stefanie von Fallois 25:19
Hey, I don’t really know if I can say whether it changed me. But it certainly brought out a lot of parts within me that I really hadn’t addressed. For example, creativity was something I never knew that something within me and a lot of spontaneity and a lot of laughter, music singing. So many of these things I had not really had contact with. And I think that is something I enjoyed so deeply, but I think it was in me, but it hadn’t a chance to come out. So I think that a lot of transformation, you know, took place and brought out sides of me that I hadn’t connected with before. And then for example, we are also felt that is maybe it’s not the right place to say that but in my garden, you know, we bought a house and we bought a house in the gables with the garden. And yeah, you know, I was like flowers and plants, but I had never ever been creative with anything. And suddenly I see myself, you know, being creative, not that I can. I’ve never been the person you know, who just looks at an empty space, and then says, Okay, this is how it’s gonna look like I can’t do that. But over the years, you know, I created a really nice sanctuary, where then my clients participate and enjoy when they hear.
Achim Nowak 27:06
Nice, I’m gonna put So cognitive language to what you just said, because this is what I heard. What I heard is that and listen to the dolphins and most of the garden is that it you learn to experience life in more dimensions conscious. So the senses were more fully awakened. And you settled into a more fully dimensional experience of life, right? That’s what I
Stefanie von Fallois 27:34
Yes, yes. And the interesting part is nothing of what I did, I could have planned because there’s so many, you know, when I met Alan, I remember even in our interview, as you know, he worked in human resources and executive search. And I remember when I did my internship, that’s how we met. If you said, Well, what, where do you want to be in five years, and we were always joking about our different approach to life, because I’m never about where am I going to be in five years, I don’t really care where I’m gonna be in five years, I will be there where I need to be. And Elon is always you know, the he has an interesting, different approach. You know, it’s more the planning and strategic and this and that, and I’m not that person. I never was and I and my life was very, is very exciting the way it showed up.
Achim Nowak 28:35
And one of the reasons I want to speak with us is that you I sense as you always need life on life’s terms. And that’s when the doors open to the next thing. I know. And I won’t even down to kid Largo once and watched your work. But at some point, I heard that please, had closed and even I felt a little sad, because I was wondering, wow, this was a very special playground where some some exquisite work was done. How did you get from there to Curacao where you? You’re not full time but you work there several times a year? How did you find Curacao? Or how did Curacao find you? Or how did that happen?
Stefanie von Fallois 29:21
It was traumatic a little bit. And often human therapy closed its doors. It didn’t close its doors because the program didn’t work. It was because my boss wanted to have his own facility and he he was losing it but that never worked out. But I lost a little bit my identity. Like who am I? If I’m not this great dolphin service anymore. It was it was interesting to connect with that part of myself like who am I? Then I remember and Kula Sal already exists I must say that was already I think because how started the program itself started in 2000 556. So we ended at the end of 2006. So it was it already existed. But I had a very, I don’t even know if you know about this, I had a very interesting phase in between, because with those parents, you know, when they come for therapy, you work very intensely with them. It’s not like, you know, you come for an hour therapy, and you talk for an hour, and then they go, I mean, you’re with them for two weeks, and in a very unique setting, and you and I always did counseling with the parents and with the siblings anyway. So we were very close normally, with the parents, and the families. And they always used to say, you know, Stephanie, it would be so nice if you could work in Austria, or Germany or Switzerland, whatever, you know, because we learn so much, but then we come home, and then we have difficulties to implement all of this. And even though the kids made a lot of progress, and so on, that they’ve needed some help at home. So one, I remember one morning, I was a Sunday morning, I was in bed, and I was like, okay, so you know, if they don’t come here at the moment, because there’s no dolphin center, maybe I can go there. Maybe I can go there and offer them, you know, different kinds of therapy. But you know, I could maybe move in for a week and do a little bit like super nanny for Special Needs families. I had watched Supernanny before. So I did that I wrote to the parents, and they booked me and it was unbelievable. It made me extremely humble towards these families, what I experienced there unbeli Unbelievable what parents with special needs have to do from you know, every morning to night from year over year, over year, I, I had a very another intense learning curve. Living with those families. I really moved in, I really moved in. I stayed there I worked with was a special needs child, I worked with the parents, I did parents counseling, marriage counseling, depending what they needed. I went to the schools, I worked with siblings. So I talked to different teachers. It was a whole new syrupy, that just came out of nowhere nowhere and it doesn’t even exist. And the parents, I mean, if there’s anybody listening, who would like to offer something like that, there is a huge need for something like that.
Achim Nowak 32:46
There’s so many different places we can go in this conversation. But I want to spend a little bit of time talking about today 2023. And especially how your life is emerging, evolving, changing, you describe your beautiful garden, I’ve had the pleasure to visit your house, which is for people who don’t know Miami, it’s in an area called Coral Gables, which is its own city, I would say an upscale, beautiful suburb of Miami and you have a truly enchanted House and Garden. Thank you, it could be easy to just sort of say I’m gonna hang out in my garden, enjoy the swimming pool, take care of my plants and do nothing. But I know you also see other clients. And one thing that I’m interested in because we live in a culture that’s more like how you described your wonderful husband, Alan, which is we we have goals and plans, we make things happen. And you’re talking about how things emerge for you or clients just sort of find you. You go to Curacao, but when you’re in Miami, how give us an example of how clients find you or how you ended up working with people in Miami. Not because you’re giving speeches or selling yourself like how does that happen?
Stefanie von Fallois 34:10
I think it started very basically it was a friend who said, you know, whenever I talk to you, I feel so much better. Can we do maybe therapy with my husband? Or can we start therapy coaching, some coaching sessions. So then I started with her and I had already done that it was in my blood. I just love that I love making people you know, feeling better. That’s already what I do as a nurse and opening up new possibilities seeing the world from a different perspective. That’s the systemic part. And I address always like that. And so you know, friends recommended other friends and then recommended was just word by mouth. Neighbors started coming. And there was one interesting funny story I cleaned up my whole yard with furniture and I saw not saw it. I didn’t sell. I gave it away on next door neighbor. It’s a it’s an app for, for the neighborhood. So nobody, you know, they live in my area. And so I gave away, you know, chairs and tables and whatever. And also, I cleaned my house and I gave away an old computer. And the lady contacted me and said, You know, I’m always very suspicious. So I Googled you before I came here. And you know, since I’m getting your computers, I really wanted to know I was the screen, it was in a new screen. I didn’t need it anymore. So anyway, see, she said, I Googled you. And I said, I read that you had worked with autistic youth. And so I have an autistic son. Could I maybe come with him and see you? I said, Sure, of course. So she came. And through the connection with her now autistic on the spectrum, he was not really that autistic. But anyway, I, I mean, she recommended then then she came with her husband and sister in law, then their kids, then friends. And I think from just giving away this computer screen, I had at least 10 clients, and it’s on and on. It’s, it’s it’s just evolving like that. I just get a phone call. It’s a friend from a friend, former friend. That’s it.
Achim Nowak 36:30
I chuckled because my, my professional career is totally word of mouth, too. And I, I believe if we had genuinely have helped two people, the universe supports this by sending more and more and more. So I love you telling that story. No, I believe your age wise in your late 50s. You have you hopefully have a lot of life ahead of you. And we already talked about that didn’t you’re not a planner, necessarily like life in a way comes to you. But I’m curious, do you have? Is there a party that goes, Oh, here’s some things I’d love to do more of? Or here’s some things I like to do less of, or it’s something that I haven’t explored that I would like to if there’s any that go on with you, Stephanie.
Stefanie von Fallois 37:24
Yes, I think I would like to go and learn how to surf. I still want to do that. I want to not with I am done windsurfing, but to just go, you know, on the board and learn to surf, I’m not sure if I’m too old for that. But that is something I really want to do. But that’s more in the in that, you know, sports and experience something very new. And then I read, like, one or two years ago, a very interesting book that touched me very much. And it was it’s called the Five invitations. I don’t know if you know this book, it’s by Frank Austin ZFC, the five invitations. And the subtitle is discovering what this can teach us about living fully. And this book is, I mean, many books are touching you. But that was in a phase where I was like, worried about a health concern. I had health concerns, I was very worried. And this book totally calmed me down. And I really enjoyed, you know, his, his approach, you know, with the five invitations of being present of welcoming everything into your life of, you know, trusting the process. And so I saw, yeah, he is Zen Buddhists. And I think he was a pastor and he but he went into Buddhism and he opened up Zen hospice in California. So I thought maybe at some point, I might look into something like that. I already went to hospital with my dog a couple of years ago. And then I was not so fearful of these moments. And so I might maybe, at some point, maybe enter, you know, something where I can maybe do some workshop, attend something more learning in that sense.
Achim Nowak 39:33
I just liked the notion of the five invitations. I’m contrasting it with a book that’s in my corporate world, very popular called The Five Dysfunctions of a Team where it focuses all of the negative right? And this This book is about what I would sound like gentle invitations towards fullness and a deeper knowing a deeper being right, and I can see how that is a much more helpful approach to life? Yes. I wondering based on with the many extraordinary experiences you you’ve had with dolphins and what you continue to learn and discover about life, especially a call and unplanned life, and then organically evolving lives, you had a chance to whisper into the ears of young Stephanie, who was in the boarding school and maybe felt a little abandoned. Or somebody like her, what would you want her to know about life that you know now that that you could not have known that?
Stefanie von Fallois 40:45
Relax, relax, I think is Don’t overthink, relaxation. I mean, we lags. Especially in our you know, I think we overthink far too much. I think thinking is really where the problem is, originated many of our problems, not all of our problems, but thinking is very less thinking. Being more present, realizing that we are, we have a very mad, you know, brain on our in our head, but we are a body, you know, we are human beings and to not underestimate our body. And to understand that very often when we have difficulties in regards to, you know, overthinking problems, creating problems, very often we create problems that, you know, might never show up, because we like an anxiety states overthinking something that could show up and maybe there’s not. And that we can utilize our body to a degree that we can come ourselves down. And we can use our senses to help us anchor in the moment and to realize that the moment is really the only place you’re alive. It’s the only place you are live. So that’s one of the main parts I always with every client, I always try to find out where are they, you know, when very often they don’t understand the question, I say, where are you? Mainly in your life? Where are you more in the past? Or you’re in the present? Or are you in the future? And I guarantee you’re most of the people are either in the past or in the future? Hardly. Anybody is really present and really participate in their own life. It’s interesting, isn’t it? It’s your life. Take?
Achim Nowak 42:52
Well, I appreciate you being present with me for these. I Gosh, 45 minutes or so we had our listeners who want to learn more about you, I know you have a website, why don’t you share some information with where people can find you and learn more about the work that?
Stefanie von Fallois 43:13
Well, I must admit, I only have a very literal website, and it’s called go to stephanie.com. And it’s more I think, like a business card. It’s not really that, you know, you really learn that much about me. But you know, since they’ve, I’m usually found through word of mouth when I tell them, you know, you can read a little bit. But it’s not like this high functioning.
Achim Nowak 43:39
Let me just say, I think you’re being unnecessarily humble because I’ve known you for a while. And I asked you to have this conversation integrated. Lee said yes. And they said, Oh, she has a website, go to stephanie.com. Let me look. And I learned things about you that I did not know from you know, it is a helpful website. It’s a professional website, and it’s a wonderful introduction to you.
Stefanie von Fallois 44:07
Thank you so much. Thank you.
Achim Nowak 44:10
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